It’s a fun one! and a challenge that hopefully will help you feel happier today… of course 🙂 Yesterday, on our blog talk radio show, I challenged listeners to join me in NOT complaining for 7 days!! Of course the goal is to keep it up after 7 days.
I’m not talking about just the big complaints… like “oh my gosh, the dog had another accident on the rug!” but also the little complaints like, “traffic is so slow this morning,” “it’s so cold outside, winter stinks, why won’t the kids pick up their toys, I hate these shoes, my co-worker is a jerk,” etc.. We all do it, usually without even realizing that we’re complaining. I’ve even tried the reasoning… “I’m not complaining, it’s just a fact – my computer is running really slow today.” But for seven days, I challenge you to get rid of the reasoning, the excuses, the little nagging complaints that can fill our day! Can you do it? Are you willing to try?
I’m doing the challenge! and am excited to catch myself when I start to complain. I’m going to make it into a game and if anyone catches me complaining… stop me and I will change the complaint into a compliment for you! You can do something similar at home, at the office, or just for yourself. So, maybe at home, when anyone catches another complaining, the have to say a compliment, or mark it on a chart and at the end of the week there is a prize for whoever has the least marks, or each person pays a quarter for each mark and donate to a charity.
Create a fun challenge at work and notice the improvement in attitude, people may also begin to work together better, towards a goal of supporting each other, rather than workload complaints, water cooler gossip, complaining about customers, etc. If you never hear complaints at work or home… congratulations, you don’t need this challenge 🙂 But if like most of us, even if we have a happy home and positive work environment, there are probably the little complaints that after building up, sometimes create unpleasant experiences.
The goal of the challenge is to raise our awareness about the power of our thoughts and words, even in the smallest detail of saying “ughh, I hate winter.” It’s to remind us that there are things beyond our control, but those things don’t have to lead to a negative response from us… we can choose something different. I could change the “I hate winter” to “I’m going to stay warm this winter, maybe a warm cup of cocoa, tea, coffee will be perfect on this winter day” or even “mmm, can’t wait until my vacation next month to the beach” or “spring is my favorite season and it’s coming soon!” The idea is to change our thought about the circumstance and if we can do it with all the little things that come up, we’ll be developing habits that help us better handle the big things that can happen.
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